Last edited by FitChick; 2nd December at 2: Originally Posted by indecisive I am going to speak from the position of a person who will have trouble BIG trouble getting pregnant, who has no children and who would love to have children There are far worse things to worry about than pregnancy. After knowing you a month I sure as hell would still have slapped a cover on it. I am not so cavalier with the consequences of my actions. That said if I did become pregnant and if it were a viable pregnancy again in my case unlikely I would see it as a gift. There is no hope in hell that I would be getting rid of that baby.
With you or with out you I wouldn't care. Her body, her emotions. Support her in what she chooses to do.
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Its all you can do. I am anti abortion but either way its not an option especially in her situation. As for you my friend you are stupid and must face the consequences to understand. Ultra thin condoms make very little difference, 18 years of your life consumed by a child you do not want on the other hand? There is no easy choice or way out of this and it is her decision which you will have to be man enough to stand by but I would expect it to be the one you do not want to hear.
Of course you are right OP. You don't know each other from a bar of soap, it could be a disasterous for a kid to be brought up by parents that can barely tolerate each other. It isn't just her choice, a child has two parents and common sense dictates that after a month it's the sensible thing not to keep the baby. You have as much say in this as she does and she would be irresponsible keeping a child whose father is more or less a stranger. I know guys like to think this is their decision but it actually is not. It's her body, her decision.
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If you're that dead set against having children out of wedlock, then either stop having sex, or stop having unprotected sex. This is the consequence of your actions so you should be adult about this and accept it. As far as she's concerned, if she's allowing you to influence her decision, then so be it.
Personally, no one would be able to do that with me. While I believe that women should have the right to choose, I personally would never get over having an abortion. That's why I wouldn't let anyone influence me.
This girl is probably an emotional wreck and doesn't know which way to turn. If I were you, I'd make sure that she believes this is the right decision before she goes through with it. I also think it's a good idea to have a paternity test done if she does have the baby. You really don't know her and it's possible that it's not your child. I too read this and went: You don't want the kid. I wouldn't either, this is ridiculous! That being said, if she IS being honest about having trouble having kids she may be very sad to be forced to terminate.
Would you be against relinquishing all parental rights? She keeps baby, you go about life as usual. You should feel guilty. If you wanted a stable life and marriage before having kids, you should have thought about that before having unprotected sex. Since you're asking for advice I think you should still take it slow. I would say don't move in with him. Let him court you.
Show him you are strong and willing to stand on your own. Let him fall for you and long to have you closer. How can he miss you if you are always there? Suddenly in his space, forcing his life to change drastically You want him to want more of you. I would say to tell him you want to date and savor the butterflies and relish the mysteries and have the special dating time to be excited together - both about your new relationship and about your new baby Even if those timelines are separate and different.
I was in almost the exact same situation. Met and a month later got pregnant. Made a plan to move in together and everything was great, started talking marriage and looking at engagement rings. About a month into living together he completely changed, became emotionally abusive, belittled me and body shamed me through my pregnancy.
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I ended up homeless 7 months pregnant, he kicked me out without a care that I couldn't get the house I owned that I rented out to move in with him back until my tenants found somewhere to live. And I had to pay for them to live in my house until they found a place. Sometimes things work out and sometimes they don't. Just be cautious, people wear masks in the beginning of relationships. Mine wasn't so drastic. We had been together 5 mos before I found out we were pregnant. He basically moved in with me right away.
He told me he loved me after knowing me only a month or two. It is 5 years later and while we have our issues we are working through it all together and expecting our second. And I've never felt more love in my life. There is no one way. It will go bad for some, great for others, or could even be just a small bump in the road. All in all it's up to what feels right for you. If you are second guessing it all then maybe hold off if you can, if you are leaning towards wanting to try and make that work, then try and make that work.
I think this is a legitimate concern to have and I would wonder the same thing if this happened to me. Maybe at some point in the near future, after figuring out how to bring it up just ask him how he feels in a private setting where you both can share thoughts and concerns. I mean if he was sticking around before the pregnancy he must feel some sort of strong feelings for you, right?
Unless it was solely hooking up and nothing else. What a great guy for being there for you. As you stated things don't always go as planned and sometimes these blessings happen for reasons. I think he is putting his best effort forward, if he didn't care about you or want to take your relationship to the next level he wouldn't make this offer. I honestly think that if you decide to live together it is a good time to do so with just each other.
It's harder when the baby arrives to have the time you can now for one another. Just as others have suggested, keep your dating life alive. Keep things exciting and try not to let the pregnancy hormones get the best of you. I dated my BF for 3 months, got pregnant and moved in when I was 7 months, he wanted me to do so sooner but I was an absolute mess pregnant. It was hard because I wasn't myself.
Taking responsibility for a baby should NOT be seen as your relationship deepening or getting more serious. You said yourself he "cares" for you but that's where you two are different because you actually "love" him. Having a baby doesn't make a relationship. We are now expecting our second child together my third baby though. We are doing great.blacksmithsurgical.com/t3-assets/realistic/mr-adam-the-artist.php
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But he is deployed right now and it sucks since I'm pregnant. I found a good one! I got pregnant after a month of dating SO. We're still together and very much in love, but it was a long, hard journey for us. SO and I were together for barely two months before we got pregnant. We are still together and have 2 kids now.
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Our relationship is a lot of work, but we love each other so we are doing our best to make it work. It probably would of been a whole lot easier had we of known more about each other before we had a baby. Anyone ever get pregnant right away and stay together?
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I was with my husband for 9 years before we got pregnant..